As some of you know, but many of you don’t, I used to be part of a jam that happens down at Harlem Restaurant here in Toronto every Monday night from 8pm to midnight. Its a jam hosted by Carolyn T. I had the pleasure of being one of the main bassists for the jam over the last couple years but decided that it was time to pursue other challenges (ie. promoting my band “Lord Bubba’s Nu-Jazz Project” and my podcast “Nu-Jazz Funk Radio“.) But I still like to go down to Harlem (which, btw, I encourage you to do as well, its at 67 Richmond St. E, just west of Jarvis). It was neat being a “jammer” again. Its fun.
Here is my take on the people at a jam and my list of DOs and DON’Ts.
THE PATRON
To the people who go to check out the jam: its fun. You get to see lots of talented acts and performers go up. And you get to see them on the cheap too (jams have low admission or just a tip jar). You also get to see something else that can bring you some entertainment: the train-wreck. There is not always one at a jam, but sometimes it can be entertaining. Especially a “singer” with an attitude and a sense of pitch that only can be rivaled by a dog’s howl. Its like watching NASCAR for the crashes. What can be great though is to continue to go to the same jam night at a later date and watch how some have improved dramatically. Others not so much. But you give them your applause and appreciation because, my friend, you were just entertained. On the other end of the spectrum you have some people who could be considered almost world-class: artists who are already pro and come out to a jam just to work out new things or to promote an upcoming show. As a patron to a jam you get to see experimentation, and in that you get to see magic. So my “do”s and “don’t”s for you:
Do have fun
Do tip
Don’t give up: there’s another artist/act coming who sounds different and you might like.
Don’t heckle: some jammers and hosts can be violent (heh heh heh)
THE PARTICIPANT (aka THE JAMMER)
You’re a musician (professional, semi-pro, or amateur) and you want to play with some other people, try out new things or you have something to promote. That is excellent. A jam sounds right for you. The jam can be a useful tool for networking, fan-base building, experimenting, and just having a good time. But you also need to understand that the guys you will likely play with might not be on the same page as you. That’s good though. This will keep you on your toes and you get to have fun on a different level. This is where the magic can happen. Here are my tips to you, the participant (aka the jammer):
Do have fun
Do tip (if you can)
Do Eat/Drink (jams don’t last long at clubs if you don’t buy stuff there)
Don’t drink too much (nobody likes seeing a drunk train-wreck, spill stuff and drool on stage)
Don’t judge others: even if you’re awesome and they’re beginners, remember you were a beginner once too
Don’t expect to duplicate a song: guess what- its a JAM, song forms change and solos are added.
Do respect the terms of the jam: if its a blues jam, do blues. If the rule is no blues, don’t do blues.
-if you feel disrespected because you’re a hot-shot blues artist and you’ve been told no blues, then don’t feel the need to bitch and moan, do something else or don’t participate. There’s tons of jams in any city that do the style that specialize in what you do.
Do Bring Charts for originals and non-standard covers: No one knows every song.
Do Be Patient: sometimes there’s a ton of singers and they need to be paired with the right musicians.
Don’t Be Afraid to Remind the Host That you Are There: hosts can get really busy at times and its not out of maliciousness that they forget about you, its just overwhelming at times. They’re human and they forget.
Don’t Remind the Host of your existence more than once every 20 minutes.
Don’t talk to the host when he/she is talking to the audience. Besides being unprofessional, it makes you look a bit self-absorbed.
Do respect the schedule: if you’re there at 11pm when people who were there earlier are waiting to get up, don’t expect to get up before them.
Do respect the gear: the hosts are being gracious enough to let you use it. Don’t break it, or be prepared to replace it or pay for the cost to fix it.
Do bring your instrument: don’t expect other people to loan you a guitar, bass or horn. Patch-cords are good too.
THE HOSTS
You host a jam. You’re doing a service to the music scene, and if its appreciated, then they come. Jams are also a great way to keep players sharp and to experiment. But they come with headaches too: drunk jammers, hecklers and the “jamateurs”: those who come in and butcher the same tune every week. Sometimes, it can make you jaded and it can frustrate you. Other times there can be some spectactular magic moments that make playing music so much more meaningful. Its a high that no drug can reproduce. However, your service to the music industry can come at a price: a very low price at times if you know what I mean. But think of it this way: what else were you going to do in that Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday night? And frankly, jams are fun. Here’s my lists of “do”s and “don’t”s:
Do be friendly and respectful: no mocking or rude comments (save them for after the jam)
Do be open-minded (within the boundaries of the jam rules and philosophy)
Don’t accept rude behaviour from a jammer: if he/she mocks someone on stage, kick them off. They’re toxic.
Do be nurturing: don’t be afraid to give constructive, KIND criticism to those who ask for it.
Don’t bash/berate other players/bands/jammers/hosts. Not pro. Even if those clowns do it first. 
Do respect the time restraints of some jammers. Some have to be home early. Don’t let them wait longer than they have to.
Do be willing to re-arrange songs on the fly: Add solos, change keys, all that good stuff.
Do accept the fact that people will use your gear: You agreed to host the jam, don’t be a clown and tell people to bring their own amps or drum kits. You don’t have time to switch over gear. If you don’t want people handling your amps, drums, mics, then guess what: you shouldn’t be hosting a jam. Exceptions are basses, guitars, patch cables, drum sticks, cymbals, wind/brass instruments: that’s up to you to let people use that stuff (I’m choosy about that).
In general: DO HAVE FUN, and hit these jams. You can be entertained, network with fellow musicians and sometimes experience some magic. Hosting a jam is a great way to meet new players and to help nurture a music scene. Personally, even though I’m not part of it anymore, I still love going to the Harlem Jam occasionally just to hang. But there are great jams everywhere. In fact, if you want, leave a comment here to tell me what, where and when your favourite jam is.